Happy Family and Love - Do They Really Exist?
So many books concerning relations in family! Various tips for creating a good atmosphere in your house...
How to stay calm if your husband always puts his socks in wrong place? 7 things which a woman should not say during supper. Where to get inspiration for preparing 5 various dishes for the above mentioned supper. What you should say and what not. What you have to wear and what you should avoid. What... Oh, there are so many rules that probably, it is not so easy to follow all of them without irritation!
Well, of course, all these books are really necessary for some people who don't know what is going on with their happy life. I mean, it helps them to organize their lives when they are not alone any more. But sometimes while reading all these books, it seems to me that we just make a contract according to which a family is the best gift which our sweetheart has ever presented us and we should care about it. I even agree with this (but of course, partly. And don't look at me so. I really love presents.) But don't you think that all these rules make our relations mechanical? Where is love? Where is understanding?
One may raise an objection that love and emotions on the whole are not the best things for making important decisions in your family life. Probably, my thoughts may seem too idealistic for someone, but in my opinion, if you love a person, you will try to make the best for him without any tips from a book. And the most important thing is to love yourself. In this case, you will not do your best in order not to let him go if he doesn't love you any more and starts to behave awfully (chaos in the flat and dirty clothes everywhere should not be taken into consideration in this case).
Moreover, if you love yourself, you don't need all these tips just because even without them you look gorgeous, know what to say and, of course, how I can forget, can cook... or can't, but feel well in any case. Look for the tips which help you to understand yourself and then you will be able to understand other people. |